5 Reasons It's Ok to Cut People Out Of Your Life
Some people are best kept at a distance.
Whether family or friends nobody needs people that negatively impact them. Albert Einstein is widely credited with saying, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” If you have tried to resolve issues, conflict or differences and the same issues, conflicts and differences persist it’s probably a good sign to cut ties. Each person that has come into our life, whether for a period of days or years, arrived along our path to serve a purpose often not through choice but through circumstance.
If relationships can not be repaired through communication and the same things keep on happening it is a good sign that you may want to cut ties.
Many times, an individual will no longer add value and negatively impact our lives. Most people have difficulty deciding what to do once they realize this. While it may seem somewhat harsh or insensitive to break ties, it is perfectly fine, and in fact, very healthy to cut people off often for both parties.
1. When You Are No Longer Happy To See Or Be Around Them
If their presence becomes unsettling to your spirit, don’t ignore the signs. Your instincts pick up on the truth and seek to guide you accordingly. There comes a time when things –– and people –– don’t bring you happiness. It is a sign that there is a need for change, and you have to take the initiative to switch things up.
2. When they create a negative environment
Individuals who always want to criticize, put down others to make themselves feel better, focus on the negative, threatened by other’s success, or abusive in any way are people that show a sure sign of wasting your valuable time and energy and, ultimately, are not deserving of you.
3. When They Want (Or Take) More Than They Give
Relationships are an exchange. It takes two people mutually invested in making each other better, holding each other accountable and being of help when in need. Those who are selfish, don’t consider others and are always first at the table and walk away with the most before ever leaving anything for others must be forced to take their greed elsewhere. Relationships should never be more of a burden than a blessing.
4. When You Can No Longer Trust Them
Everyone knows that trust is the most essential factor in any form of relationship. Once it is compromised, things might never be the same. Trust can take years to build and only a few moments to break. Those who claim a space in your circle must be people you find trustworthy, reliable and genuinely concerned about what is best for you. When the bond is broken or betrayal irreparably sets in, find the exit.
5. When They Are No Longer Supportive
You should always surround yourself with people who support you and your dreams. Though support comes in many forms, the common thread is authenticity and honesty. Those with a true desire to watch you win in life don’t care to offer endless pats on the back or overlook your weaknesses –– they actively push you to be the best version of yourself that you can be and accept you for who you are.
All things, including people and feelings, change. When they do change, it is only fair for all parties involved to move on. Every decision you make has a direct impact on your future. As a result, you should never feel guilty for making choices that are in your best interests. You must remember: It’s your life.